The Muslim Brings About Harmony Among People
By Shaykh Abdul Fattah Abu Ghuddah
“Islam advocates this etiquette and stresses it so as to perfect the Muslim personality and to bring about harmony among people. There is no doubt that embodying such manners and virtues enhances personal style and qualities, refines personality and brings us closer to the hearts and minds of others. The forthcoming manners and etiquette are central to Islam, its purposes and its aims. Calling it ‘etiquette’ by no means implies that it is marginal to life and social behaviour. It does not mean Muslims have the option of ignoring this code of behaviour, or that it is merely preferable to adhere to it.
In pointing out that manners rank higher than deeds, Imam Al-Qarãfi in his book Al-Furwüq said, ‘Learn that a little etiquette is better than a lot of good actions.’ Rwúaim, the righteous scholar, told his son, ‘Oh my son, make your deeds salt, and your manners flour.’ Many good manners with few good deeds are better than many good deeds with few good manners. Even if some of these rules appear to be simple common courtesy, it is important to highlight their significance.
Many Muslims commit errors which blemish the Islamic personality, whose purpose is meant to be unique in its beauty, perfection and traits. Our master, the Messenger of Allah (sallahu alayhi wa sallam) directed the blessed companions by saying: ‘You are on your way to meet your brothers, put on a nice dress andfix your riding so you appear distinct among people as a fleck [on a beautiful face]. Allah does not like roughness nor rough manners.’When the Prophet, peace be upon him, said: ‘No one will enter Paradise if they have at heart a grain of arrogance.’ A man asked: ‘A man may like his dress to be nice and his shoes nice’ The Prophet answered ‘Allah is beautiful and likes beauty. Arrogance is to deny rights and look down at people.’ ”
Shaykh Abdul Fattah Abu Ghudda (1917-1997) was one of the giants of Islamic scholarship in the 20th century. He was born and raised in Aleppo, Syria to a family that descended from Khalid ibn Walid (may Allah shower him with mercy). He studied under some of the leading scholars of the Ummah, including the prolific Ottoman scholar Shaykh Muhammad Zahid al-Kawthari. A leading scholar in his own right, Shaykh Abdul Fattah Abu Ghudda has left his mark in the field of hadeeth and jurisprudence.
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